Reading Time: 3 minutes Real men are spiritual leaders in their family. At least that’s what I thought they said when I returned from a ministry event for men in the summer of 1994. But there was a lot of baggage that I carried forward that had to be dealt with before I could even begin to think of being a leader of anything spiritual.

Reading Time: 3 minutes Do you move away from others because you want to be safe and avoid hurt (isolation)? Or do you move towards others because you think you need them to live (immersion)? While most of us don’t tend to live at either of these extremes, we do tend towards independence or co-dependence. Where we are on the continuum varies within each relationship, but in most cases, the problems we have in relationships tend to fit one of three relational profiles.